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Thanks for wishing my family well.

It occurred to me that there is a remote chance that there could be somebody in the same position as that woman's husband, reading this thread, and wondering if I'm talking about their wife. I want to clarify that her husband now knows about the affair.

I have talked to my husband, and my suspicions turned out to be painfully true.

But, he told me the truth, and that was what I had asked for. We are sticking together and are working on fixing things.

This will be my last post on this.

Thank you to all who took the time and gave advice. I keep thinking back to Desibabu's question about what hard data I have about what is happening. Today I remembered that a suspicious item on a credit card statement that I thought my husband had bought for her, was actually bought by me for ...

IndianByDefault, It would take a lot to confront the woman without losing dignity. Besides, I would be confronting my husband's co-worker. Whatever is happening, I can't imagine the consequences of doing that would be good. I would really like my husband to see how destructive his "friendship" is ...

#6, #7 Thanks for your suggestions and advice. It makes sense that I should be spending more time with him and talking to him more. I would like to get closure on what's happening first (if anything beyond easily explained-away lies is happening). I hope that I've been making a mountain out of a ...

Chicago Desi, Thank you for the suggestion. She had already been at our place for dinner more than once. We have been to her place for dinner once. She knows my daughter, who in turn knows and adores her. My husband had even taken along our daughter to a couple of his secret meetings with her. It ...

Desibabu, Thank you for the response. It means a lot. [I]You said he has been meeting her outside - how do you know that? [/I] [I][B]He had told me he met her for coffee a few times (at our last confrontation).[/B][/I] [I]How often? [/I] [I][B]According to him, four or five times a couple of months ...

First, I know that by posting on a public forum like this one, I open myself to all kinds of responses, and not all of them will be gentle. Still, I feel lost and am stumbling to find my next step, so I will go ahead. I just request that you don't willfully be harsh in response. Have been married ...