My R2I dilemma: Am I taking too much of a risk?
Posted: Sun Aug 26, 2007 9:42 am
I am presenting a deeply personal question out on this forum as I am confident of receiving thoughtful responses.
Here's my story...
I came to the US about 10 years ago on an H1 visa. I was married, had just become a father and was well settled with my job in India at a tier II town. With attractive qualifications from respected institutes I could have come to the US earlier as well and yet never really viewed migrating to US as an achievement of any kind. The triggering event happened when I discovered that I was settling down in a company where my successes would be somewhat limited. The choice then was between moving to one of the bigger cities in India or checking out the other side of the world.
Like many others on this forum, I decided in favor of coming to US. I was quite impressed by the structured way of life. The initial year or two went by appreciating the lifestyle, cultural differences and identifying a workplace where I could build a long term career. Switched to one of the best known companies and focused on advancing my career....
Fast forward eight years - I am about to get my US citizenship, have reached Senior/Executive Management position in this worldwide company and have a workplace only half a mile from home, the child is now an 11 year old and I also have managed to get all my siblings here in the US. The job is extremely satisfying with distinct growth opportunities in sight. However, the parents have just retired and I don't expect them to enjoy spending their sunset years here in the US. The kids are growing up and it is getting obvious every day that we are entering their most important formative years. At the same time, IT industry in India is booming and there seems to be a distinct value for real management experience in India.
While I have enjoyed significant successes so far and don't have any reasons to expect anything different in future - the deeper side of me still can't associate with the culture in the US. I have been in countless management and client meetings where I have had to bring out the best in me to assimilate in the predominantly American crowd. As I climb the corporate ladder, it just feels like I am working with a significant handicap that is going to remain for a long time to come. On the other hand, given the recent growth spurt in India, it just seems that there is a significant scope for Senior Management roles in India where I will be working from a position of advantage.
My parents have always been supportive of my decisions and will never ask me to R2I for their sake. However, I can sense the desire in their tone to somehow bridge the time/distance gap. Am sure that this will get more prominent as they grow older and I can easily see myself torn apart trying to care for them from afar. My siblings aren't thinking about R2I and being the only son and the eldest in the family, I feel responsible for my parents more than any one else.
On the home front, my wife comes from a very traditional upper middle class home where domestic help is taken for granted. She has concentrated on growing our kids and has had an extremely difficult time reconciling to the idea of no help for domestic chores. For her, living in the US will always be a compromise where she won't ever enjoy the conveniences of daily life. In short, she is generally supportive of the idea of returning to India.
The final decision of whether to LIA or R2I was easy to postpone over the years - the kids were small, GC hadn't come and later USC was near etc... Accordingly, we navigated our way through every decision trying to keep our options open. Joined this MNC so I would be able to return easily, raised children as bilinguals so they could read/write in Hindi, bought a townhouse in 2000 instead of a single family home to limit our exposure, kept ourselves well informed about India with desi channels being family favorites and finally - have managed to build a road for R2I by developing the India based team of our division.
Am once again at crossroads as I was 10 years ago... I can continue where we are. I can easily afford a nice single family home and continue to reach greater successes. Develop deeper bond with local community, brace ourselves for the cultural challenges of raising American teenagers and accept the fact that I am an NRI!!
Or I can take the final plunge and shoot for a plan of R2I where I would continue to head our North American operations from India. There is a significant risk of potentially throwing away years of hard work if the transfer does not materialize, even if it does - there is also the risk of being away from my siblings (though my wife will get closer to hers) and finally there is the risk of geo-political uncertainties causing stagnancy or even a reversal in growth prospects at India.
LIA option seems easy and simple at this time while R2I will require determination and long term commitment to the chosen path.
Sometimes decision making gets harder if you have plenty of attractive choices... This brings us to my question - If I go with R2I - will I be taking too much of a risk?
Here's my story...
I came to the US about 10 years ago on an H1 visa. I was married, had just become a father and was well settled with my job in India at a tier II town. With attractive qualifications from respected institutes I could have come to the US earlier as well and yet never really viewed migrating to US as an achievement of any kind. The triggering event happened when I discovered that I was settling down in a company where my successes would be somewhat limited. The choice then was between moving to one of the bigger cities in India or checking out the other side of the world.
Like many others on this forum, I decided in favor of coming to US. I was quite impressed by the structured way of life. The initial year or two went by appreciating the lifestyle, cultural differences and identifying a workplace where I could build a long term career. Switched to one of the best known companies and focused on advancing my career....
Fast forward eight years - I am about to get my US citizenship, have reached Senior/Executive Management position in this worldwide company and have a workplace only half a mile from home, the child is now an 11 year old and I also have managed to get all my siblings here in the US. The job is extremely satisfying with distinct growth opportunities in sight. However, the parents have just retired and I don't expect them to enjoy spending their sunset years here in the US. The kids are growing up and it is getting obvious every day that we are entering their most important formative years. At the same time, IT industry in India is booming and there seems to be a distinct value for real management experience in India.
While I have enjoyed significant successes so far and don't have any reasons to expect anything different in future - the deeper side of me still can't associate with the culture in the US. I have been in countless management and client meetings where I have had to bring out the best in me to assimilate in the predominantly American crowd. As I climb the corporate ladder, it just feels like I am working with a significant handicap that is going to remain for a long time to come. On the other hand, given the recent growth spurt in India, it just seems that there is a significant scope for Senior Management roles in India where I will be working from a position of advantage.
My parents have always been supportive of my decisions and will never ask me to R2I for their sake. However, I can sense the desire in their tone to somehow bridge the time/distance gap. Am sure that this will get more prominent as they grow older and I can easily see myself torn apart trying to care for them from afar. My siblings aren't thinking about R2I and being the only son and the eldest in the family, I feel responsible for my parents more than any one else.
On the home front, my wife comes from a very traditional upper middle class home where domestic help is taken for granted. She has concentrated on growing our kids and has had an extremely difficult time reconciling to the idea of no help for domestic chores. For her, living in the US will always be a compromise where she won't ever enjoy the conveniences of daily life. In short, she is generally supportive of the idea of returning to India.
The final decision of whether to LIA or R2I was easy to postpone over the years - the kids were small, GC hadn't come and later USC was near etc... Accordingly, we navigated our way through every decision trying to keep our options open. Joined this MNC so I would be able to return easily, raised children as bilinguals so they could read/write in Hindi, bought a townhouse in 2000 instead of a single family home to limit our exposure, kept ourselves well informed about India with desi channels being family favorites and finally - have managed to build a road for R2I by developing the India based team of our division.
Am once again at crossroads as I was 10 years ago... I can continue where we are. I can easily afford a nice single family home and continue to reach greater successes. Develop deeper bond with local community, brace ourselves for the cultural challenges of raising American teenagers and accept the fact that I am an NRI!!
Or I can take the final plunge and shoot for a plan of R2I where I would continue to head our North American operations from India. There is a significant risk of potentially throwing away years of hard work if the transfer does not materialize, even if it does - there is also the risk of being away from my siblings (though my wife will get closer to hers) and finally there is the risk of geo-political uncertainties causing stagnancy or even a reversal in growth prospects at India.
LIA option seems easy and simple at this time while R2I will require determination and long term commitment to the chosen path.
Sometimes decision making gets harder if you have plenty of attractive choices... This brings us to my question - If I go with R2I - will I be taking too much of a risk?