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How kids adjust

Posted: Thu Jun 09, 2011 10:06 pm
by MeClear
If someone has recetly gone back to india, please write how kids less than 9 years old adjust.
what top three difficulty.

How kids adjust

Posted: Fri Jun 10, 2011 1:57 am
by tantrix
My relatives moved back last year. The major thing their daughter (age 5) had to struggle with was language. She barely spoke hindi. So the first year was a bit tough on her.

How kids adjust

Posted: Fri Jun 10, 2011 3:55 am
by layman
Kids less than 9 adjust very well. As the previous poster said 2nd language in school is a pain point. If the kid is a boy, he may find the other boys a bit rude. Overall, the school including the teachers will be less courteous. Other than that - mosquitoes, health issues.

How kids adjust

Posted: Fri Jun 10, 2011 12:52 pm
by oncemore
layman;393636 If the kid is a boy, he may find the other boys a bit rude.


Beg to differ, looking at my 10 yr old boy and 6 yr old girl interacting with their peers, in my experience boys are more understanding with each other and girls are the ones bitching, back-stabbing, grouping against each other. Not one day has my son complained about his friends, whereas I have my daughter come home every other day crying that some girl is not ready to be her friend, everybody hates her, they are sidelining her or some girl is bullying her etc, etc.

OP, both the kids have adjusted very well. They have a good set of friends in school and at home and are able to go out to play everyday in the evening. This is what they consider the best part of R2I.

Son took French as 2nd language and Hindi as 3rd. They had just started French the year he joined so everyone in his class was at the same level as him. He knew basic hindi alphabets and could read small letters (sentences), so he was fine with Hindi too.

I can list a lot of good things, but since you are not asking about the good things but top 3 difficult things, here is my list
1. Daughter cannot stand the crowd and refuses to come to the malls/shopping complexes with us, even after a year.
2. Son cannot stand the heat in the afternoons (during summer vacations)and tends to get light headed and has bloody nose quite often. We have to keep him constantly hydrated. He tends to sweat more than normal and that causes all these problems. We avoid exposing him to direct sun as much as possible.
3. My In-laws moved in with us and the kids still have a tough time adjusting with grandparents. They are not comfortable when grandparents say something negative to them. This is one issue which is a long work-in-progress.