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Dear all,

I need your suggestion .

My husband is currently working in Texas,USA from 2 years and is visa extension is under process. I am working in an MNC and My Son will be going to Grade2 in Jun-16 are in Bangalore. We visit him during holidays.

After his visa extension, he wants us to relocate to US.

I am in dilemma as my son is 2-Sep born and he has to study Grade1 again and after we relocate to Bangalore after 2 years, will my son be able to manage these standards.

My job is also a constraint .

Please help me with your guidance

Thanks !

Malathi A

Seems like you are in a tough spot. I would not worry too much about your son having to repeat grade 2 but in your case you will lose your ability to work due to visa situation unless you are in a software developer in that case its quite possible that you can also find job on H1 visa?
I am guessing your husband GC is still a distant thing?

Most important is the finance aspect. How much savings do you two have? Hoping that your husband income is greater than $100k if he is in a big town like Dallas/Austin/Houston?

Another thing I noticed, and I may be wrong, seems like you two are not on the same page anymore.....you seem to feel its better for him to move to India......but he may not have good opportunities in India and wants to pursue American dream....hence to be together one of you may have to sacrifice career....

malathia;626197Dear all,

I need your suggestion .

My husband is currently working in Texas,USA from 2 years and is visa extension is under process. I am working in an MNC and My Son will be going to Grade2 in Jun-16 are in Bangalore. We visit him during holidays.

After his visa extension, he wants us to relocate to US.

I am in dilemma as my son is 2-Sep born and he has to study Grade1 again and after we relocate to Bangalore after 2 years, will my son be able to manage these standards.

My job is also a constraint .

Please help me with your guidance

Thanks !

Malathi A

Thanks techynt :) He is @ Irving .

I am not a developer but project manager.

Frankly, I am keen on him relocating to India. Without a job in hand I am thinking twice before taking any decision.

Have a great day !

malathia;626197...... We visit him during holidays.
After his visa extension, he wants us to relocate to US......
Please help me with your guidance
Thanks !
Malathi A

When you visit the USA ( how many trips, how long each visit ?) how does your life in the USA seem ?
Have you imagined being there on a LONGer holiday ? And miss out on your work in Bangalore, your friends, familiar things, and your family in Bangalore ? Would you trade that lot for being in the USA -- likely moping about in a flat, when he is away at work ?

Internet forum members would obviously not know how passionate, helpful, wonderful and handsome the husband is. We need a full description to offer a helpful guidance.

You are not serious op are you. U actually care about repeating a class?

rajradio;626217You are not serious op are you. U actually care about repeating a class?

Why not ? Many parents do worry about their kids repeating the grades due to relocation. Her son being born in Sep 2 will probably miss cut off in many US school districts and may have to repeat first grade and first grade in US is well below India's first grade, so her worry is genuine..

RBee;626222Why not ? Many parents do worry about their kids repeating the grades due to relocation. Her son being born in Sep 2 will probably miss cut off in many US school districts and may have to repeat first grade and first grade in US is well below India's first grade, so her worry is genuine..

I would rather worry whether my kid is both physically and mentally on par with the rest of the students in his class.

I made my kids repeat their grades on my R2A (2 and 4) so they are inline with their peer group, main focus on physical.
There's a good story on Canadian NHL players success by being elder in the class within the same year.
Outliers: The Story of Success Paperback – June 7, 2011 by Malcolm Gladwell



http://nymag.com/arts/books/features/52014/index2.html
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Consider, for instance, those hockey stars. Relying on the work of a Canadian psychologist who noticed that a disproportionate number of elite hockey players in his country were born in the first half of the year, Gladwell explains what academics call the relative-age effect, by which an initial advantage attributable to age gets turned into a more profound advantage over time. Because Canada’s eligibility cutoff for junior hockey is January 1, Gladwell writes, “a boy who turns 10 on January 2, then, could be playing alongside someone who doesn’t turn 10 until the end of the year.” You can guess at that age, when the differences in physical maturity are so great, which one of those kids is going to make the league all-star team. Once on that all-star team, the January 2 kid starts practicing more, getting better coaching, and playing against tougher competition—so much so that by the time he’s, say, 14, he’s not just older than the kid with the December 30 birthday, he’s better. The solution? Double the number of junior hockey leagues—some for kids born in the first half of the year, others for kids born in the second half. Or, to apply the principle to something a bit more consequential (to non-Canadians, at least), Gladwell suggests that elementary and middle schools put students with January through April birthdays in one class, the May through August birthdays in another, and those with September through December in a third, in order “to level the playing field for those who—through no fault of their own—have been dealt a big disadvantage.”

It is common in India to push children early into school, and keep them at the "leading edge". It was done to me and my siblings too. We survived.

However, now that I've growed up, I realize that in fact, the opposite would have been better.

Put your children in school as late as possible, without them being obviously over-age. The natural advantages of being intellectually more developed and socially more adept will be a benefit.

I never heard anyone worry about grade 2/3 kids coping with US education. I thought US education is meant to be easy and of course everyone claims they learn a lot, enjoy a lot, get to know the world etc. Is this really a worry for you, as you are presenting ?

And I think you might be one of the rare women gender who wants to LII and opposite of husbands desire.