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I got an offer in Hyderabad that pays reasonably well. I have been in US for 15 years. Not able to decide to whether to take the offer or not. I have 2 children getting into high school and middle school. They want to do undergrad in USA. The opportunity is decent. Got it without my trying and knocked on my door. I am in a dilemma whether to take it or not. Any advice? The driving factors are parents (they are fine moving to USA) and a desire to work in India for some time as I have just another 15 years before I hang the boots.

Start with the centre (which is You) not with what the Children like or Parents like.Decide on what decision makes you feel absolutely fulfilled.When you feel absolutely fulfilled at the core of your being ONLY then you can be of some help to your dependents else it will all be half baked solutions.From your end try to create all situations that will make all your dependents feel deeply fulfilled at the core of their being (this is very tricky as its is very difficult to really gauge what the other really needs).

Opportunities are never lost. Some one will take the ones you miss.

OP,

Has R2I been on your mind prior to receiving this offer or is R2I an afterthought upon receiving the offer? Your parents are able to move to USA. So if R2I hadn't seriously crossed your mind before, then why would you want to rock the boat without adequate reason?

dbs;632304Opportunities are never lost. Some one will take the ones you miss.

Opportunities are always lost; when you take on one, you give something else a miss.

Mclean123;632291I got an offer in Hyderabad that pays reasonably well. I have been in US for 15 years. Not able to decide to whether to take the offer or not. I have 2 children getting into high school and middle school. They want to do undergrad in USA. The opportunity is decent. Got it without my trying and knocked on my door. I am in a dilemma whether to take it or not. Any advice? The driving factors are parents (they are fine moving to USA) and a desire to work in India for some time as I have just another 15 years before I hang the boots.

"they are fine" or would they like to move to USA ?
Could you fulfill your desire to work in India, and let your parents move to USA, to supervise the gr.kids, etc. ?

OP, Why do you want to move to India when your parents are fine in moving to USA AND your children want to continue their education in USA? You want to work in India ??? Why do you want to just settle for a decent offer? Try taking a short term assignment and you will get a good feel of how it's like working there. I'm not saying it's BAD. Most people that worked in the US find it difficult working there. If your heart is totally for moving to India for common reasons like parents not able to/ willing to move to US one could understand. I think you should think a bit more.

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Okonomi,
I did not understand your question. But I can still let my parents move to US, I can sponsor green card for them. They are only 'fine' to move to USA.. not too eager to move.
Lively,
R2i was in my mind on and off. Never serious.

desi4ever:
Thanks for the great questions. I am hoping to give some exposure to Indian culture for my kids so that they can know their relatives, traditions, and customs. It will be their last chance to have some connection to India before they grow up.

Mclean123;632317Okonomi,
I did not understand your question. But I can still let my parents move to US, I can sponsor green card for them. They are only 'fine' to move to USA.. not too eager to move.
Lively,
R2i was in my mind on and off. Never serious.

No one understands okonomi, so don't worry. :) Jokes aside, she says that your parents can come to US and help your family here in terms of taking care of the kids etc. Meanwhile you can go to India and work from there. I think it's a good idea. If everything works out well then you can pull the family to India. But that brings up an important question. Are your wife and kids in favor of r2i?

BTW, if you're not serious about r2i it may not work at all. Even the folks who were dead serious to make it work came back running after some time.

I did the R2I after almost 15 years in the U.S and R2A after 7 years in India. If you want to read my experience, here it is -

http://www.r2iclubforums.com/forums/showthread.php/32038-R2I-R2A-experience

Here's some thoughts based on my experience -

If you were to R2I :
- You will be providing the kids with the best India experience, in terms of being close to the cousins, immediate family and also the day to day life challenges that are unique to that place. You get to appreciate the things that you take for granted staying here. You won't get this full experience by making a short vacation.
- You will get an experience of working in an Indian work place and challenges. You may not enjoy the whole thing but some things are definitely interesting and get a better feel for what is involved working in a global work culture from India.
- You will lose out on paying in-state fee for undergrad education and pay the more expensive out of state option till you establish residency.
- Lose out on kids extra curricular activities if they are involved in Band, Orchestra, tennis and others.

Most times the decision to R2I is not a mathematical equation that you can plug in all the variables and you get a solution. It is more subjective and a decision from the heart. You finally have to evaluate what are the priorities in life that are important to you based on your situation. Each one of us can tell from our perspective but since no 2 situations are the same, you have to bite the bullet like they say.
Good luck with your decision.