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Women who share email account with husband.

Gals, what does one do if a friend shares email account with husband? It is her primary email, and husband accesses it regularly. Now, when I tell or email a friend something, I know she might tell her husband. That is different from email and being aware that he will read emails I send her. It feels odd to send her email saying 'Gawd, what's wrong with Priyanka's blouse in Desi Girl song in Dostana' or 'was in a hurry, and got no less than 4 nicks shaving my legs yesterday', or 'stupid Bali has stopped making lingerie I like, do you think overstock.com or another site might still sell them?'

And to add to it, husband on occasion sends email from her account to us (her female friends) - general stuff like 'She reached India" (if she has gone alone w/ kids).

Why can't women keep an email address not shared with husband? It is free, na?

I don't know what is the solution but I do have couple of friends in India who do that. My communication with them have been very much restricted on e-mail. Any time I need to convey something I make a call. Which doesn't work very well BTW ,, one of them puts phone on speaker while talking ,, I am never sure who else listening to the call. Also ,, we used to write each other long letters when we were apart during our engineering days. I miss that expression a lot ... tried telling her and came reply : "Oh you can write an e-mail A reads my account everyday and he can even print the email from his work and I can read like a letter via air-mail ..only faster." :(

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Aiyo! Print email! :emdgust: Never thought of that.

Thanks for understanding, behana. I knew I had come to the right place.
It is very weird. It is like telling her something, and he is standing behind a curtain and listening too. Dashed unsettling.

Clarification:

Priyanka song, Bali brand and nicks are only examples. Might or might not have been shared in emails to my sakhis who are their-own-email-address shy.

modus_vivendi;308219Women who share email account with husband.


Why can't women keep an email address not shared with husband? It is free, na?

I have a few email accounts and hubby knows the password for the most commonly used ones. Although I have couple of accounts which he does not know the password of where I communicate with my school friends, etc.

I wouldn't send anything in an email that could embarrass me later. Once you hit the send button you never know where all it is going to go. Even if the wife has a separate email account, she could always forward it.
Some of my Engg friends and my cousins do send emails where hubby has access to. He usually doesn't bother to read the lengthy, girly emails. I don't think guys are as inquisitive as us about such things. He may get a little curious if a guy is constantly emailing, but not otherwise.:-)

modus_vivendi;308219Women who share email account with husband.

We don't have shared email account per say. He has his own and I have my own but we know each other's password. I don' access his emails unless there is something he wants me to read and viceversa.
Also most of my friends are his friends too so he has access to their profile/email thru facebook/orkut. An update form his side on facebook keeps all my friends in loop. Also i am never away from internet.....lol

Girls, I had couple of queries piled up for a while... here goes.

So, once in a while, when i/we are sitting in the backyard, we can hear one neighbor (female) cry. It is like real deep sobbing, maybe after a big fight with hubby kind. With windows open, it is clearly audible. They seem to be happy couple with a kid, but once in a while we hear her cry. What would you do? Ignore? Or, next time you meet, tell her it is audible, but ask no more? Offer help? I know them more than hi-bye, but not super close.

I was thinking if it was reversed, I would like to know that neighbors can hear...

It is easier if instead of crying, someone is having a good time... one can just say 'keep it down, will ya?' : )

she doesn't seem to be in any marital abuse situation, so I am not so concerned, but wondering what you'd suggest...

One more -

if you are having guests staying for a week or few weeks, say a family of 3 or 4, and kind of 'important' folks, and all rooms are too small or too much stuff in them, would it be OK to give them the relatively bigger master bedroom with huge walk-in closet for the big suitcases. Or, would it be odd? I prefer to do that, move my stuff and sleep in my kid's room, so much easier. Any thoughts?

modus_vivendi;315299Girls, I had couple of queries piled up for a while... here goes.

So, once in a while, when i/we are sitting in the backyard, we can hear one neighbor (female) cry. It is like real deep sobbing, maybe after a big fight with hubby kind. With windows open, it is clearly audible. They seem to be happy couple with a kid, but once in a while we hear her cry. What would you do? Ignore? Or, next time you meet, tell her it is audible, but ask no more? Offer help? I know them more than hi-bye, but not super close.

I was thinking if it was reversed, I would like to know that neighbors can hear...

It is easier if instead of crying, someone is having a good time... one can just say 'keep it down, will ya?' : )

she doesn't seem to be in any marital abuse situation, so I am not so concerned, but wondering what you'd suggest...

Talk to her casually - Are you ok? I think I heard you crying today/yesterday. Watch her expression, at the first question itself you will get an idea from the expression if you should ask further or change the topic right away. :thup:

modus_vivendi;315309One more -

if you are having guests staying for a week or few weeks, say a family of 3 or 4, and kind of 'important' folks, and all rooms are too small or too much stuff in them, would it be OK to give them the relatively bigger master bedroom with huge walk-in closet for the big suitcases. Or, would it be odd? I prefer to do that, move my stuff and sleep in my kid's room, so much easier. Any thoughts?

Giving master bedroom is easier, I do that all the time when it is a family with kids.