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Use this thread to discuss posts which were useful, which touched your heart, which helped you release stress. Category is not limited to finance or R2I planning or settling, career related help or a humor.

That post kindled some feelings in you in some way. Need not be a new post. We approach 10 years of this forum in few months, so any post from the club's infancy to now and the future.

If possible, My only request is try to showcase many members' posts than repeating posts of just handful of members. Do we need this? Yes in my opinion as positive reenforcement lifts one's spirits. This is our way to say our thanks to the post's creator.

Here is to start. :) Don't thank this post, but you may thank the original post by clicking through to cabo's post, if you haven't already thanked it. :)

cabo;344750A son..who is so thoughtful that he'll pass the tissues and dim the lights, when a rare " chick Flick" is being watched at home with friends, so his Amma can shed a tear or two without being made fun of!

A son..who'll play his Amma's favorite " Mouna ragam" back ground score on his violin one more time, without ever complaining!

A son..who'll remind his forgetful dad about the wedding anniversary/ ammas birthday and also keeps a bouquet of flowers from the garden handy..just in case....

A son..who tells his amma, when alone with her...that you know, you were wrong in your argument with mamayya ( Uncle), don't you? Its been a month and it's time you called him and dials the number for her!

A son...who consoles his Amma crying buckets, after the relative kept referring to him as " that Boy" throughout his stay with us. It's Ok Amma, he doesn't really know us- I know I belong here, i know I am loved and will never take that for granted.

A son..who'll help his Amma finish the ambitious Rangoli the night before deepavali because she has already spent four hours and no where close to finishing it! It's a different matter that he has to wear the hooded sweatshirt, dads glasses and turn the porch lights off- so the neighbor aunty and her girls won't see or recognise him!
After the rangoli is done, " There" he says " Now, you have no excuse to miss the daughter that you never had"!

No son, I will not miss the daughter I never had, but will miss your charm, your silly antics, your laughter, your unfailing politeness, your constant stream of friends, your impromptu dances, your soulful music, your empty bravado, your common sense, your kindness, your frienship and above all your love.

I will miss my Elder son !



POST SCRIPT- My DH found this couplet on his desk-
" Jaane Kya Woh keh gayee Aankhon Ki Bhasha Mein,
Dil Mera Dole - Asha .. Nirasha mein ?" ( Translation someone ?)

Bloody Romeo! My husband laughed after reading it! Did you write it ? i asked him. Oh no Amma, you give me way too much credit! It is from some hindi movie..it sounded nice, thats all!

Yes, thats my son too- A Hopeless Romantic!!


THE END.

Came across this thread today - Good old thread.
http://www.r2iclubforums.com/forums/showthread.php/28190-What-I-have-learned-from-my-Forum-Friends

Patnababu;23776All,

I could not control myself but to post in this thread. I am not necessarily expert either in Ayurveda or Allopathic but for the record, I spent 7 years of my life studying Ayurveda in reputed Ayurvedic colleges in India, spent 7 years in US Universities learning allopathic (or modern) science and spent another 7 years in US doing research in Allopathic medicine.

Now, I like to bring one major point to your attention. In my view, I see a fundamental problem with Alternative medicine such as Ayurveda or Homeopathy. For any medical system the basic fundamentals are Anatomy, Physiology, Biochemistry and Pathology. Pharmacology and its principals (i.e. mechanism of action) depends on fundamentals such as Physiology and pathology. Medical practice (i.e. treating diseases) certainly depends on all of the above mentioned subjects.

In Ayurveda, basic fundamentals such as Anatomy, physiology, pathology are ancient science. Time demands change but it did not happened in Ayurveda. The very basic fundamentals of Ayurveda are vata, pitta and kapha. These are not visible or measurable. Characteristics of vata are defined in charaka samhita as follows.

The most revered ayurvedic text, the Charaka Samhita, defines the characteristics of Vata dosha: dry and rough (rookshaha); cool (sheetoha); light--lacking weight (laghuhu); very tiny, penetrating molecules (sookhshmaha); always moving (chalota); broad, unlimited, unbounded--akash means unbounded space (vishadaha); and rough (kharaha).

The following is another version of vata description from some where on the web.

Vata means wind, to move, flow, direct the processes of living system. Vata enables the other two doshas to be expressive. The actions of Vata are drying, cooling, light, agitating and moving. Vata governs breathing, blinking of the eyelids, movements in the muscles and tissues, pulsations in the heart, all expansion and contraction, the movement of the single impulses in nerve cells. Vata also governs feelings and emotions such as freshness, nervousness, fear, anxiety, pain, tremors and spasms. The primary seat or location of the Vata in the body is the colon. It also resides in the hips, thighs, ears, bones, large intestine, pelvic cavity and skin.

The above states that Vata resides in hips, thighs, ears, bones etc..... What form? color? No one taught us the shape, form and color when we were in college. Teachers told us it was in so and so samhita and we digested bookish knowledge. Otherwise, we believed it.

Now, when it comes to pathology, the causative factor of every disease is imbalance of vata, pitta and kapha. First of all, I do not know the existence of vata, pitta and kapha but I am attributing its imbalance to diseases. It like building a house without foundation.

On top of it, when it comes to Ayurvedic Pharmacology, every drug, herb or formulation is described based on ayurvedic fundamentals. For example, drug 'x' can be vata shamak (decreases vata) or pitta vardhaka (increases pitta), shital (cooling effect), or ushna (heating effect) etc.... Unfortunately, I can not translate this in allopathic terms. Several people are trying to 'interpret' the ayurvedic terms or diseases into modern medicine 'in their own ways'. In my opinion, there is no straight forward dictionary here. In fact, one should stop translating it. It is impossible unless you find right translation for vata, pitta and kapha in modern medicine to start with.

I am sure you may say, OK, let's forget about this mumbo jumbo Ayurvedic physiology and its fundamentals. We can not understand them any way. Why don't we take some of the well know herbs (and other unexplored herbs from ayurveidc texts) such as neem, tulsi, haldi etc,,, and test its efficacy and therapeutic value using modern science and technology. Well, I am all for it. That is exactly what we need. We need double blind randomized clinical trials to prove the therapeutic value of Ayurvedic herbs or formulations. Note...not just once, but in many multi-center clinical trials. That is the only way to prove the value of ayurvedic herbs and formulations in 21st century.

The here say or belief may influence only certain sector of people. But, if you prove the concept at fundamental level then most of the people will believe it.
I do have similar issues with Homeopathic fundamentals too. It is a topic for another post.

More than happy to answer any questions you may have.

Thanks,
PB

PB's post that I enjoy reading.

PB is a game changer and Desi is a thought changer. Glad to have met you.