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I have n't thought about this as much earlier. But as my son is growing up and will be starting to use computers I am beginning to think. How do I make sure that he is not exposed to adult and violent contents. I don't have intentions of spying or limiting computer usage yet.

I am looking for opinion on best and easy option to setup parental controls in home computer. Also if you can share stories how kids have tried to overcome the hurdles, that will be good to watch for.

There is a certain level of control or restrictions that can be set on the browser itself (Tools->Internet Options-> Content tab in Internet Explorer). This should allow for basic filtering of most of sites that you do not want your child to be stumbling across.

Another suggestion by the so-called experts is to move the PC from the bedroom to the living area where there is more movement of people around. Also, disable public chat rooms. Predators are most commonly found in chat rooms in the guise of 12 and 14 year-olds.

Most importantly, COMMUNICATE with your child at an appropriate level and talk to him or her about the dangers lurking online. Do not assume that your child is too young to know what YOU think they are too young to know. Eventually, they are going to hear various often elaborated versions from their peers at school and it is best to nip curiosity at the bud by giving relevant information that will quench their thirst for knowledge.

Child-rearing! Who said it is a joke!

# 4 - Sorry to hear about your predicament, which apparently has been lingering in your household. I'm sure your daughter will see the lighter side of your actions once she becomes a parent. However, by your own account, your actions seem to be a bit "over the line" and your daughter appears to have reacted as expected of a teenager. Now, what would I have done differently had I been in your situation? I don't know. If only kids were born with a manual which gave the exact solution for various issues parents encounter for the first couple of decades of their lives! I know it is easier said than done, but as a parent we all seem to let several opportunities to talk to our children slip by and ultimately let our emotions and instincts decide what to do under drastic circumstances.

I still believe that it is absolutely critical for parents to become involved in their children's lives not to the extent of "controlling" them or over-taking their lives and making their decisions for them. But rather, teach children the values of honesty, integrity, trust and good judgment and be a friend, philosopher and guide from a safe distance. To win the child's confidence and give him or her the courage and comfort to share fears, apprehensions, problems and victories in their growing years. Believe me, the time invested in your child's present day will definitely ensure a well-rounded individual in the future. This does not mean that they will be perfect individuals. They will also make mistakes and even blame us for it. But as long as we allow them to learn from their mistakes and be by their side as they pick themselves up, I believe that will help build character and integrity.

I know all this sounds so "Dr. Phil", but the truth is, children are not just the result of "the moment of truth" but the windows through which you will see the distant future.

gulfIndian;47037I want to share our experience
What happened after that is something I never expected. My daughter was very angry and upset .

Now after two years, she is quite normal with me, but I think she has developed a hate for me in a corner of her heart for what I have done.

Perhaps, you should console yourself that you protected your daughter from something bad happenning to her, even though you have sufferred personally in your relationship with her. I would, and I would do it even knowing that this may happen.