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Yes, being left to fend for yourself and choosing your own mate sucks. Traditionally, parents, the family unit at large or the head of the household have made that decision. I agree that it can be difficult to put in practice now because communities and families are so weak and there are many disastrous arranged marriages. Today, we exist as individuals, not as groups or families. We have to fend for ourselves. But, as a concept that best suits humans, arranged marriage is probably better.

Here are some useful links that members might enjoy reading:

1) In Defence of Arranged Marriage.

2) The Mahabharata: Sexual Freedom of Women.

When indian workers and small businessmen went to Africa, or the Malay peninsula during the British Raj times, they might leave a family (wife and kids) at home, and after a year or so in the new country, take on a new wife and beget another family. For the muslims in the migrants that was just fine, and pretty much ordained by the holy scriptures. However, for the non-muslims it was something of a taboo, and not talked about in the post-cards they had asked someone to write for them.
I am sure there are such things in modern times, but then, because the penalties for exposure are rather severe, they usually do not come up in the light too often.
The r2i or r2a dilemma would never arise, if there is a spouse*/live-in-companion in both places, would it :wink ? No matter where one goes, there is "home".

*A live-in companion (common-law spouse, as it is known in some countries) is one way to circumvent the bigamy statutes in USA.

okonomi;655048When indian workers and small businessmen went to Africa, or the Malay peninsula during the British Raj times, they might leave a family (wife and kids) at home, and after a year or so in the new country, take on a new wife and beget another family. For the muslims in the migrants that was just fine, and pretty much ordained by the holy scriptures. However, for the non-muslims it was something of a taboo, and not talked about in the post-cards they had asked someone to write for them.
I am sure there are such things in modern times, but then, because the penalties for exposure are rather severe, they usually do not come up in the light too often.
The r2i or r2a dilemma would never arise, if there is a spouse*/live-in-companion in both places, would it :wink ? No matter where one goes, there is "home".

*A live-in companion (common-law spouse, as it is known in some countries) is one way to circumvent the bigamy statutes in USA.

Yes, I don't understand why men are being limited to one wife in modern times. If one has enough money to maintain more than one wife and her children, it should be allowed. If you are mating and running off then it is a problem. In olden times, all the Hindu Rajas had more than one wife and countless concubines. Nowadays, you have to be a batchelor in order to become Prime Minister.

Well there is a solution and many don't want to hear, rather live in broken parts.

Sometimes we need to be matured enough to decide the one to marry, and it should not take feelings as the main part of the decision. Because feelings do fade in shorter time, loyalty don't. Look out for good character.
Even you married wrong person, you can't call it wrong unless your view is wrong. Love does change, I mean, true love which majorly requires sacrifice and hardships.

And many wives, if legalized, the next generation would have gone so crazy, taking YOU as their numerous advantages, and eventually disappear true definition of trust, loyalty, faithful, even love. What a wasted life it would be.