Why No Alpha Indian Males in the US?
Posted: Wed Oct 13, 2010 10:05 pm
Yesterday I had a very interesting discussion with colleagues, majority being non-Indian mostly white, black and couple of Indians. All of us are male except for one white girl, so it was a male dominated group. The discussion started with someone bringing up a certain scene from popular AMC series Mad Men. Most of the men in our group would like to be protoganist who is an alpha male. There are several definitions of alpha male but our common understanding was alpha male refers to someone who has a strong personality, can easily get the women he wants, assertive, dresses well above average and has good physique. At some point in time in their lives, most men would like to have atleast some of the alpha male characteristics e.g six pack body etc..Coming back to the discussion, one of the guys made a comment that Indian men can never be alpha male. I and other Indian guys got a bit ruffled by this comment and we were trying to present him examples from India such as film actors like Amitabh Bachan, leaders like Nehru or Rajiv Gandhi. We could not find much examples from first generation Indians. Here are some reasons that me and the other Indians in the group came up why there are not many alpha Indian males in the US
1. Most of us have engineering / IT background which makes us geeky
2. Due to our upbringing in India, we beleive in humility and dont tend to be aggressive. We dont try to sell ourselves as much as native born and raised. Alpha males are considered bad in our society
3. We dont have time pass conversation skills e.g talking about football games etc etc., though we are good at presenting ideas / solutions in business context
4. Years of prime youth spent in obtaining Green Card and Citizenship makes us rather meek and less risk taking i.e we lose the Mojo.
5. Fear of NO. Many of us dont like receiving NO from other parties and take things very seriously and consider ourselves a failure if someone rejects us
What do you all think?
1. Most of us have engineering / IT background which makes us geeky
2. Due to our upbringing in India, we beleive in humility and dont tend to be aggressive. We dont try to sell ourselves as much as native born and raised. Alpha males are considered bad in our society
3. We dont have time pass conversation skills e.g talking about football games etc etc., though we are good at presenting ideas / solutions in business context
4. Years of prime youth spent in obtaining Green Card and Citizenship makes us rather meek and less risk taking i.e we lose the Mojo.
5. Fear of NO. Many of us dont like receiving NO from other parties and take things very seriously and consider ourselves a failure if someone rejects us
What do you all think?