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This is a bit taboo topic that I've got going and I wanted the broader community to weigh in .Before you brush me off as someone who is very superstitious and all that - that is/was not me till now (35 years on earth) . But this topic is tearing me apart from within . I'm not sure why it is happening to me /my family . It 's a bit controversial and has to do with what my mom used to call dristi or nazaar or attracting negative energy. Some instances -
Everytime we go for a long vacation after talking about it with my friends and family - we really see something or other kind of major obstacle coming in our way . And when we go unannounced - everything works like a charm but then when we are back -we have to face the wrath of the extended family .Not to mention that we don't share photos now...how sick !!!.
Bought a new ping pong table at home and everything goes well till 5 months when I invite some of my friends for play and since then no one -not even my kids want to do anything with the table .
Someone compliments on my landscape lights and guess what- the whole landscape turns pitch black with a short circuit that I still have to find within a week of my friends compliment.
Things have come to an extent that we have started profiling our friends now - something that I don't agree with but don't see a lot of options .

Adding more color -
I'm the only kid well off in the family purely due to my studies and my nature to be driven in everything i do and everyone else in family has faltered big time . Even the area we live in here in US - We are the only one that's owing a house in our friends circle and most of my friends are on rental basis in condos .

Given the perspective , I'm not sure why it keeps happening with me and wanted to see if anyone has experienced something of this nature . I know it sounds very obnoxious or meaningless but when small things starts affecting your life in more ways then you can imagine - you start becoming serious and google just does not have any answer to this.

And if you feel there's some kind of antidote or something that you do to avoid these issues (lemon, chillies & piece of charcoal for home) - would love to listen in . I hope I'm not spreading some kind of blind faith here . If it's not appropriate - apologies in advance .
or am i losing it ?

koprithane;636652Hello
This is a bit taboo topic that I've got going and I wanted the broader community to weigh in .Before you brush me off as someone who is very superstitious and all that - that is/was not me till now (35 years on earth) . But this topic is tearing me apart from within . I'm not sure why it is happening to me /my family . It 's a bit controversial and has to do with what my mom used to call dristi or nazaar or attracting negative energy. Some instances -
Everytime we go for a long vacation after talking about it with my friends and family - we really see something or other kind of major obstacle coming in our way . And when we go unannounced - everything works like a charm but then when we are back -we have to face the wrath of the extended family .Not to mention that we don't share photos now...how sick !!!.
Bought a new ping pong table at home and everything goes well till 5 months when I invite some of my friends for play and since then no one -not even my kids want to do anything with the table .
Someone compliments on my landscape lights and guess what- the whole landscape turns pitch black with a short circuit that I still have to find within a week of my friends compliment.
Things have come to an extent that we have started profiling our friends now - something that I don't agree with but don't see a lot of options .

Adding more color -
I'm the only kid well off in the family purely due to my studies and my nature to be driven in everything i do and everyone else in family has faltered big time . Even the area we live in here in US - We are the only one that's owing a house in our friends circle and most of my friends are on rental basis in condos .

Given the perspective , I'm not sure why it keeps happening with me and wanted to see if anyone has experienced something of this nature . I know it sounds very obnoxious or meaningless but when small things starts affecting your life in more ways then you can imagine - you start becoming serious and google just does not have any answer to this.

And if you feel there's some kind of antidote or something that you do to avoid these issues (lemon, chillies & piece of charcoal for home) - would love to listen in . I hope I'm not spreading some kind of blind faith here . If it's not appropriate - apologies in advance .
or am i losing it ?

Its a matter of belief. We also believe in it, and some instances have happened where we feel it was due to "nazar" etc. E.g. when we put photos on facebook, someone gets sick at home.
We typically do the salt thingy to remove it.

Yeah. I have also experienced it. But, what are you going to do about it?

Whether there is negative energy or not, thinking that there is negative energy leads to definite negative energy. So, the best thing to do about it is to think that the whole negative energy is bullshit and move on with a positive mind.

When Robert Bruce was driven to exile 6 times, if he had thought that there was so much negative energy, he would not have regained his throne.
If Lord Nelson had thought of negative energy when he lost his leg, eye and arm, he would not have defeated Napolean.

Time and again, people that always took things on their stride and acted positively on any adversity have succeeded. If you go to lemon/chillies it is going to be a never ending thing. If you still face this kind of problem what are you going to do? bell peper and watermelon?

koprithane;636652

I'm the only kid well off in the family purely due to my studies and my nature to be driven in everything i do and everyone else in family has faltered big time . Even the area we live in here in US - We are the only one that's owing a house in our friends circle and most of my friends are on rental basis in condos .

Given the perspective , I'm not sure why it keeps happening with me and wanted to see if anyone has experienced something of this nature . I know it sounds very obnoxious or meaningless but when small things starts affecting your life in more ways then you can imagine - you start becoming serious and google just does not have any answer to this.

And if you feel there's some kind of antidote or something that you do to avoid these issues (lemon, chillies & piece of charcoal for home) - would love to listen in . I hope I'm not spreading some kind of blind faith here . If it's not appropriate - apologies in advance .
or am i losing it ?

If you want one to believe in Kan Drishti or Buri nazar or evil eye, you would have not done well but you have done well. Your peers have not bought house but you have. Only few have luxury of vacations but you have.

Good and bad things happen to all of us but only very few share their bad luck openly, so we assume only good things are happening to them.

Don't fall for evil avoiding stuff like lemons, chilies, pumpkins etc. Develop a rational mind that good things and bad things happen to everyone and eventually they balance out. Keep working hard to keep up with your good luck. If this feels like a preaching, ignore but learn to ignore who supposedly give an evil eye to your good luck as well.

FB2020;636660Its a matter of belief. We also believe in it, and some instances have happened where we feel it was due to "nazar" etc. E.g. when we put photos on facebook, someone gets sick at home.
We typically do the salt thingy to remove it.

Reading your answer - looks like that I'm not alone here . But then - according to my wife ,I try to find rationale and link events that just doesn't make sense but she was a bit taken aback by the landscape incident which is why I tried to google things and reached r2i some way.

When you say salty thing does it mean spraying salt and then vacuuming it the next day .

layman;636663Yeah. I have also experienced it. But, what are you going to do about it?

Whether there is negative energy or not, thinking that there is negative energy leads to definite negative energy. So, the best thing to do about it is to think that the whole negative energy is bullshit and move on with a positive mind.

When Robert Bruce was driven to exile 6 times, if he had thought that there was so much negative energy, he would not have regained his throne.
If Lord Nelson had thought of negative energy when he lost his leg, eye and arm, he would not have defeated Napolean.

Time and again, people that always took things on their stride and acted positively on any adversity have succeeded. If you go to lemon/chillies it is going to be a never ending thing. If you still face this kind of problem what are you going to do? bell peper and watermelon?

Not wanting to get into a passionate back and forth and your POV ... but we analyzed 10 years of life data on vacations,our trips ,our house (which is 3 yrs old ) when this thought came to the fore. As I said - this might be some kind of wishful thinking that I might get lucky and get an antidote or something but I wanted to explore what's in the wild wild west ...

To add -
The form factors of sharing your joyous moments have changed so much with facebook - where you post photos of you vacationing in a yatch in hawaii and you have this childhood friend of yours staring at that photo the next minute in a jam-packed,hard to breathe 8:43 am CST fast trian stuck somewhere between kurla and sion station and commenting on how life has been unfair to him - that comment might not be as superficial as you think it is - compels to think what would be your state of mind if you put yourself in his shoes ....and does that have an impact ... or maybe it does not.... I don't know but experiences is what make you wiser or (paraniod in my case )...

If you think your pingpong Table is cursed, you can remove that by finding someone with a real tennis court in the backyard, walk near their house, and throw a small kerchief bundle of a clove of garlic, two dry red chillies, and some kosher salt near their fence line. Your pingpong curse will shift to that tennis court. The next player who is sliding to get to a wide ball will slip and break her (his) ankle.

It is like the common cold: until you pass it on to another, you'd suffer. once you pass that darn thing along, you'd be free of it, until some other clever dick comes along to get you. How do you think your pingpong table got cursed in the first place? It was one of your "friends" with a cursed carrom-board who came to visit you. It is so telling that none of them come to your house anymore. They don't want to catch it back.

Singing the famous blues song usually helps (sing along with the audio):

RRS;636664

Good and bad things happen to all of us but only very few share their bad luck openly, so we assume only good things are happening to them.

Thanks for your thoughts ...
Where I was trying to get to is if this is all co-related . Like you socialize thoughts before the event occurs and it all goes wrong or you keep it secret and everything works perfectly....or is this just figment of my imagination...

okonomi;636670If you think your pingpong Table is cursed, you can remove that by finding someone with a real tennis court in the backyard, walk near their house, and throw a small kerchief bundle of a clove of garlic, two dry red chillies, and some kosher salt near their fence line. Your pingpong curse will shift to that tennis court. The next player who is sliding to get to a wide ball will slip and break her (his) ankle.

It is like the common cold: until you pass it on to another, you'd suffer. once you pass that darn thing along, you'd be free of it, until some other clever dick comes along to get you. How do you think your pingpong table got cursed in the first place? It was one of your "friends" with a cursed carrom-board who came to visit you. It is so telling that none of them come to your house anymore. They don't want to catch it back.

I do understand the dry american humor or satire kind of ok ok .Are you trying to pull a "Jay slaps the Chicken" in Modern family or is this something real. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=heNprVP1Lts
Curse might be a strong word here and my friends are lining up to come play .It is me and my wife who are acting as foolish gatekeepers to this favourite pastime .

koprithane;636673I do understand the dry american humor or satire kind of ok ok .Are you trying to pull a "Jay slaps the Chicken" in Modern family or is this something real. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=heNprVP1Lts
Curse might be a strong word here and my friends are lining up to come play .It is me and my wife who are acting as foolish gatekeepers to this favourite pastime .

The expression on your link, namely, "mess with you", is the prime time television euphemism for "xxck with you" in reality TV that is on cable. In America, it is your fundamental right to be spooked at whatever you like. We call it "pursuit of happiness". It is all right there in our constipation, handed down from the foundling fathers.