Is Male the head of the household?

[M V]

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Typical Male worries (also assuming that most R2I families have a male head of household in terms of earning money):
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A compromising, yet assertive when needed head of household can manage most if not all differences. ...

An interesting post about differences in how the two genders approach R2I. Not interested in R2I, but very in the differences between the two genders, the usage, not once, but twice, of "head of household" caught my eye, as of course, did the "male" prefix before one.

So, where do I start? :39:

1. Does the term "head of household" remain applicable in contemporary marriages?

2. Is one "head of household" needed to make the final decision or can a joint-leadership work?

3. If both husband and wife agree on the concept, does the "male head of household" in fact make for an easier existence?

4. If the woman is earning as much, if not more, than the man, is a "head of household" tag/title/position still needed?

[boca]

2. Is one "head of household" needed to make the final decision or can a joint-leadership work?[/quote]
What about tie? Decided with a coin toss of the "head", out of the household, by the "tail"? :)

[M V]

Hoping to read views, opinions and banter less wishy-washy and equivocal than this:

The Husband as Head of Household

[QUOTE]In many marriages, even in today's society, the husband is the head of the household. He spends his days working to support his family. He manages the home's finances, takes care of the necessary repairs and provides a supportive and authoritative figure for the family to look up to. While many families have gotten to the point of splitting all responsibility between the spouses, some families still hold this dear to their way of life. There are benefits to it and there are many things that can happen because of it too.


There are many things that are important to consider in this aspect of marriage though. First off, the woman should always feel as if her position, her input and her being is just as important to the family. The role of the woman is that of a nurturing and the one that will run the family so that it works well. Yet, it is still quite important to insure that she is able to voice her opinion and is not put down in the marriage as well. If this should happen, there are likely to be problems with the marriage as far as power struggles. Yet, many people find that it works quite well to do this.
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In any relationship it is essential that a man and a woman know where they stand as well as their responsibilities in that relationship. For many people the goal is just to insure that their needs and their feelings are met. For this to happen, men and women alike need to insure that they are willing to provide this information. And, they need to be in agreement as to how the family will be run. Should they decide to go with a marriage in which the man is the head of the household, they should both be okay with this and be able to stand behind it completely. For it to work right, it has to be defined by both individuals.

Today, there are fewer and fewer couples that are living in such a manner. What is for sure is that both individuals in the relationship should be equal parts to it and they should provide for a constant, careful respect for the other's role in their marriage if it is to work.

[oasis138]

An interesting post about differences in how the two genders approach R2I. Not interested in R2I, but very in the differences between the two genders, the usage, not once, but twice, of "head of household" caught my eye, as of course, did the "male" prefix before one.

So, where do I start? :39:

1. Does the term "head of household" remain applicable in contemporary marriages?

2. Is one "head of household" needed to make the final decision or can a joint-leadership work?

3. If both husband and wife agree on the concept, does the "male head of household" in fact make for an easier existence?

4. If the woman is earning as much, if not more, than the man, is a "head of household" tag/title/position still needed?

Slide and dice it the way you want but the answer is ...........Yes.

[M V]

Slide and dice it the way you want but the answer is ...........Yes.

OK :) What do you think about this Woody Allen quote: "In my house I'm the boss, my wife is just the decision maker.”

[M V]

My thoughts on this are still not clear. I need help to decide. Please pour in your valuable thoughts.

[nj_tina]

Where is a head , there ought to be a neck (for support and occasional rotary motions)!

IMO in contemporary marriages it is hard to achieve the clear distinction of duties, in terms of financial, social or domestic chores. I personally feel that if one person is taking the lead and other is supporting it works better then perfect equality but the same person can't lead in all departments as it is not humanly possible to be effective at everything. e.g if DH is good at making money , DW night be better at managing it or vice versa. If wife is good at entertaining , DH might have a better grip of kids issues. So basically one could be a head for certain issues and neck for others is what I think.

[rajradio]

IMHO male is the head of the household but the wife is the superboss, he remains the head of the household as long as he listens to his wife.

RK

[Purujit]

Please define and elaborate the term 'Head of the household'. I am keen to find out if I am one.

[oasis138]

OK :) What do you think about this Woody Allen quote: "In my house I'm the boss, my wife is just the decision maker.”

One advice i got when i was about to get married was this -

For men marriage means making a choice - choose either to be right or choose to be happy.