Folks:
Have been living in USA for past 13 years, have USC with OCI. Nice family with 2 girls (9&5). Well settled in US with own home (ofcourse Mortgage is there), paid off cars and no debt with little savings.
Have an offer from India for 30L (Total years of IT infrastructure experience is over 22) and I always wanted to go back. Now when it is time to move, I am trying to search for the root cause of why I should go and not finding a concrete reason and confused over the issue -should I go or not.
My mom is battling cancer but in safe hands of my siblings. My presence in India is not going to make a difference (as they live in Chennai and offer is in Bangalore) and not a huge factor in my decision.
The only rationale for my decision is, I can afford the move now and will probably never move later and a right time to "Trying out for couple of years?". Is this a right mindset to go?
Should I go or not?
Should I go or not?
americandesi;396528Folks:No. IMHO, you need (at least) one strong reason to go back. It could be as simple as 'just want to go home'. But then I have not R2Ied yet (contrary to my login name on this forum) so I could be wrong.
Is this a right mindset to go?
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LotsOfRokda
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americandesi;396528Folks:
The only rationale for my decision is, I can afford the move now and will probably never move later and a right time to "Trying out for couple of years?". Is this a right mindset to go?
Cant comment on the transition for the 9 year old, but your kids are young. I would have tried it- if I know I can get a job again in the US market if I want to come back. If that is not a hindrance, I would try it as it would still give me a couple of years to spend with my mom (instead of visiting her once in 2 years , I visit her once in few months with the kids).
I think you only need to have a strong reason if you dont want to come back.
Of course, how you manage the home, car , mortgage till you try it out is a different question. Good friends can help you out. We are helping out one such friend.
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americandesi;396528Folks:
own home (ofcourse Mortgage is there),...with little savings
I am .... not finding a concrete reason
My presence in India is not going to make a difference
Is this a right mindset to go?
No...browse here and you may find a better mindset from those who had gone already.
Should I go or not?
Dear Americandesi
You are a USC, so you have the option of coming back.
You have an offer in Bangalore for 30L, which is decent
Your mother is in Chennai battling cancer, so being in Bangalore you would be a 3 hours away instead of 24. Same time zone too.
You say that "you can afford the move now"
You also say that "you've always wanted to move"
Many member of this forum have, or will, move to India with only one of the above reasons. You have at least five.
Reading your post, it seems to me that you are looking for that absolute certainty in your heart that you are making the right move. Many of the members who have R2Ied probably never had that certainty. I know I don't.
Good luck in your decision.
You are a USC, so you have the option of coming back.
You have an offer in Bangalore for 30L, which is decent
Your mother is in Chennai battling cancer, so being in Bangalore you would be a 3 hours away instead of 24. Same time zone too.
You say that "you can afford the move now"
You also say that "you've always wanted to move"
Many member of this forum have, or will, move to India with only one of the above reasons. You have at least five.
Reading your post, it seems to me that you are looking for that absolute certainty in your heart that you are making the right move. Many of the members who have R2Ied probably never had that certainty. I know I don't.
Good luck in your decision.
Should I go or not?
I concur with b2blr. IMHO, you can't go wrong either way! Also, if you R2I, you don?t even have to travel for 3hrs to be with your mother, you can get her to stay with you and your family in BLR. Good luck!
b2blr;396565Dear Americandesi
You are a USC, so you have the option of coming back.
You have an offer in Bangalore for 30L, which is decent
Your mother is in Chennai battling cancer, so being in Bangalore you would be a 3 hours away instead of 24. Same time zone too.
You say that "you can afford the move now"
You also say that "you've always wanted to move"
Many member of this forum have, or will, move to India with only one of the above reasons. You have at least five.
Reading your post, it seems to me that you are looking for that absolute certainty in your heart that you are making the right move. Many of the members who have R2Ied probably never had that certainty. I know I don't.
Good luck in your decision.
Should I go or not?
US2INDIA8;396656...Also, if you R2I, you don’t even have to travel for 3hrs to be with your mother, you can get her to stay with you and your family in BLR. Good luck!
No skin off my nose (had to use that), but I'd be a little wary of uprooting a mother who is dealing with cancer and is in good hands of siblings and moving her to another city just because one has r2i'ed to that city and is now available to take care of mother.
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Chaptersoflife
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If i was you i would talk to my better half and talk to your 9 year old, get a feel first. If your heart says go and if it all makes sense (Emotionally and financially) then do it. Your mom is there battling cancer i think that should be the biggest reason to do it, spend as much as time you possibly can with her because life is short and you will have a biggest regret in your life once she is gone (harsh fact). Im a kind of person who would leave all comforts of life to be with my rents some of you maynot agree with me but oh well. And your spouse would or should understand your decision. Good luck bud hope it all works out and my may your mom lives forever n ever.
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Chaptersoflife;396716..... Your mom is there....... i think that should be the biggest reason to do it, spend as much as time you possibly can with her because life is short and you will have a biggest regret in your life once she is gone (harsh fact). ......
Is "a mother" some standard issue item that all grownup children ought to feel the same about ? In many families, the grown up children, who had left home and have independent lives, could feel differently about their parents.
We have already had a lot of discussion of mother-in-laws on this forum; so we know that this (feeling-about-mother) is murky, when one is not even a wholly-owned entity (the better half is someone else), capable of independent thought or actions. Member Chaptersoflife brings out this point !!
Is OP lucky to have siblings taking care of mother ? Or ...unlucky not to have a controlling interest in the said mother ?
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What is wrong with that if she is on the mend? Please!!! I am not suggesting him to uproot her just because he is in India, it is just a suggestion that once his mom is back to normal, he can get her to stay with him...
modus_vivendi;396710No skin off my nose (had to use that), but I'd be a little wary of uprooting a mother who is dealing with cancer and is in good hands of siblings and moving her to another city just because one has r2i'ed to that city and is now available to take care of mother.