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farfromhome;336579It takes a Pediatrician to know one :). You are absolutely right about the above. I had raised this issue with my son Pediatrician quite a few times for the past 2 years. Unfortunately or fortunately both my kid and the Ped. are big Disney World fans :). My kid talks to him for 15 minutes about Disney World during his doctor visits (or it's about trains) and it's a never ending conversation . We end up with a verdict that he's fine, you just have to wait it out as he has had lot of complications (allergies / asthma). He finally agreed to write a referral when my kid's focus kept on changing from his questions (the topic wasn't Disney or Trains). If my kid had answered all the questions that day, most likely I would got a referral and would've ended up meeting Doc Sumeet from this forum in Bangalore for other reasons than a R2I meet :).

Finally got an appointment with one of the Pediatric Neuro (not the one we were looking for. Our Ped. would rate him only 4 on a scale of 10, but asked us to go there saying you don't lose anything). Ped. Neuro's evaluation was that he was fine but had a weak muscle tone and that would explain his clumsiness. Also, asked us to do a EEG and go for Speech Therapy for him. We are hoping that r2i would provide automatic speech therapy for him :). At this point this is not a worry but definitely a concern for us. He goes to a regular public school. Apart from the need for improvement in social skills, we have never got any complaints. Hopefully, we are able to do our homework as suggested by sumachechi and able to get a good Ped. Neuro for him in Chennai.

sumpi;670695suyog, farfromhome, Flavorflave,


Thank you very much.


Farfromhome,


I really got great solace from your post. Can you please tell me how
you are training/mentoring your kid?

Nothing special. My wife has always been with him and has been in his case for academics and I insisted that he be put in a lower class while we r2i'ed. He was in in his 1st Grade in USA but we put him in Senior KG here in India, I guess that helped.

My son has very high level of intelligence. He even read class IX-X std books.


The issues that he faces are:


1. He simply has aversion to writing. He doesn't want to do classwork at all.

He is very regular with this as he is more fond of his teachers and doesn't want them to reprimand him. So, this problem takes care of itself

2. His maturity level (I suspect that this will be the case with Autistic kids in general) is
way below a normal child. Due to this reason he cannot connect and is odd man out among
his peers.

Same here. He is not able to connect. In of the school functions I went, I overheard a kid saying that don't say anything to him (my kid), he will not be able to comprehend what you are saying. Fortunately or unfortunately, he still doesn't understand that he is being ignored. His maturity level according to me is that of a 3rd/4th standard kid. You can clearly tell if your kid behaves like a 10 year old when he is 13. This might not be the case when he is 21 or 22. 18 year old behavior should be very normal when the kid is 21. I am sincerely hoping that this is the case. Kids seem to like him because he is always the one helping with answering on their school whatsapp group, so he gets accepted in the group for this.


3. He hates sports & group activities.

He loves tennis (both playing and watching) but hates group activities. We told his PT master to include him in school drill for sports day. His rehearsals are usually comical but I have always noticed that he does it perfect during the D-Day .


4. Low concentration. When he watches TV he will flip channels in a matter of minutes even seconds.
This is now affecting his academics. He will finish an exam in 15 mins.

Same issue on the concentration side but no issues watching the TV. He will watch the same episodes over and over again (specially Thomas and Friends episodes on TV or New York Subway rides posted on youtube). He always finishes his olympiad papers in 40 minutes and doesn't bother to verify in the remaining time despite us requesting this for around 5 years now!.


My wife as I mentioned is very sensitive. Unfortunately she doesn't let him freely mix with
normal kids(initially we used to call some of his friends to our house but simply he won't
mix and remained aloof, so the friends got bored). She feels other parents/kids would
laugh at him.

We have his friend come over from our apartment complex and he easily gets bossed around. We have tried to explain this to him many a times but the same story continues, if we stop then his friend will stop coming. We can't send him alone to any other places due to his food allergies. That's an additional worry we have.

Off course this is a very sensitive issue. Only a parent of autistic kid will relate I guess.
But can someone share how he/she(parents) deals with the psychological aspect of
autistic child.

sumpi;670696farfromhome,

Can you please provide the link to the thread from which you have pasted your quote.

Also can you please provide links to other relevant threads.

Thank you.

sumpi;670706Flavourflave,

Your post is great and I read it multiple times.

Farfromhome,

I need to read your links meticulously.

At this stage I first want to ensure that when my kid grows up he can lead
a life which is as much normal as possible.

Given that he is autistic not sure whether any girl will ever marry her. So
we have to teach him to face the world all by himself.

I will try my best to ensure that he has enough to manage a decent life if he is not able
to get a job. But my concern is he must develop the maturity to face the world
alone. We have to train him properly in that aspect.

Thank you.