Is this mentality normal?

[Aqua777771]

Whenever I am in the US, in couple months I start missing India (culture, festivals, relatives, friends, food, weather) and when I'm in India I start missing US (infrastructure, cleanliness, pollution-free green, less crowded) in 3/4 weeks or so when I'm on vacation. Once I return from vacation, again I start missing India in couple months. Is this normal?
How do you really mentally prepare yourself for R2I ?

[MrLong]

Grass is greener the other side. How many such iterations have you had? It looks like after a while, you will get over/accept it and move on?

[Sid]

Next time take a vacation in Bangladesh. You will start missing India for it's infrastructure and cleanliness too. Problem solved

;{D

[agarwalmk]

This is pretty common issue. Take a decision to R2I based on what you miss more: India in US, or US in India.

[returning_indian]

You are like me. Too much time on hand.

[M V]

Be happy about the missing you feel. Not missing India in U.S. and not missing U.S. in India, would have some posting:

Is this normality mental? : )

[rajradio]

It is normal, I know 2 families who retired in singapore after a long stint in US as it offered western convenieces and indian conveniences both at the same place. It is afterall human nature to keep wanting something that you dont have. My only request dont visit the cheating thread then you'll start wanting everything you dont have.(j/k)

RK

[layman]

Is this thread in any way inspired by "Why men cheat?"

Once upon a time there was this rich merchant. The guy had a beautiful wife and an even more beautiful concubine. Whenever he stays with his wife he misses the concubine and whenever he stays with the concubine he misses his wife and he can't have them both under one roof. What a pity??!

[M V]

Note to self: Do not send kids to a Balvihar where Layman might be a teacher or a substitute teacher. His stories are, putting it politely & mildly, unconventional. :)

[okonomi]

Is this thread in any way inspired by "Why men cheat?"

Once upon a time there was this rich merchant. The guy had a beautiful wife and an even more beautiful concubine. Whenever he stays with his wife he misses the concubine and whenever he stays with the concubine he misses his wife and he can't have them both under one roof. What a pity??!

Pity ? What Pity ? He is fortunate that this is so. In countries where the local custom (religion) allows this, the wives get together and the guy ends up having a life that is equivalent to that of the blind ass that walks around the well to draw water for the "collective" family. If the candle has to be burnt on both ends, a healthy separation can make it last much longer. Mark Twain had much to say about candles in his "Letters from the Earth"
"But man is only briefly competent; and only then in the moderate measure applicable to the word in his sex's case. He is competent from the age of sixteen or seventeen thence-forward for thirty-five years. After fifty his performance is of poor quality, the intervals between are wide, and its satisfactions of no great value to either party; whereas his great-grandmother is as good as new. There is nothing the matter with her plant. Her candlestick is as firm as ever, whereas his candle is increasingly softened and weakened by the weather of age, as the years go by, until at last it can no longer stand, and is mournfully laid to rest in the hope of a blessed resurrection which is never to come.
By the woman's make, her plant has to be out of service three days in the month, and during a part of her pregnancy. These are times of discomfort, often of suffering. For fair and just compensation she has the high privilege of unlimited adultery all the other days of her life." (Mark Twain ends..)
(okonomi back again)....Human nature being what it is, I am sure this new lifelong visa thing is going to result in few R2I adventures with the intention to light the candle at the wrong end.