Another Failed R2I

Tsozum · Post by **Tsozum** » Wed Jul 04, 2012 11:46 pm

suyog;461437I think they were bored in the US and wanted a change.

I think and I think not. Many folks feel US lifestyle is grinding and routine. However once people go to India (and even people in India) feel that life is India is routine and grinding (it is interesting however filled with vagaries -- power cuts, turn over of maids etc etc). The thing about USCs (self included) get lured by month long vacationing thinking that life in India is bed or roses but when start to live there the realization hits that the roses come with tons of thorns. So USCs like beaten down dogs, put the tail between legs, yelp and get back to the comfort of fully airconditioned home/apts and hondas/toyotasThose have nots remain in India with no choice or try to get back on H1B etc. Of course some lead a happy contended no matter where they live and that is the holy grail. Achieving inner peace is the quest irrespective of where one lives.

cf_r2i · Post by **cf_r2i** » Thu Jul 05, 2012 7:58 am

Tsozum;463623I think and I think not. Many folks feel US lifestyle is grinding and routine. However once people go to India (and even people in India) feel that life is India is routine and grinding (it is interesting however filled with vagaries -- power cuts, turn over of maids etc etc). The thing about USCs (self included) get lured by month long vacationing thinking that life in India is bed or roses but when start to live there the realization hits that the roses come with tons of thorns. So USCs like beaten down dogs, put the tail between legs, yelp and get back to the comfort of fully airconditioned home/apts and hondas/toyotasThose have nots remain in India with no choice or try to get back on H1B etc. Of course some lead a happy contended no matter where they live and that is the holy grail. Achieving inner peace is the quest irrespective of where one lives.

It is bitter truth I can vouch for being a qualified one. Being content is not easy task especially for adversities. Once you achieve it, you are in "paramanada" - Happy ever after.

suyog · Post by **suyog** » Thu Jul 05, 2012 9:08 am

I have started to believe that "If one is unhappy LIA (or LII), he/she is most likely to be unhappy LII (or LIA)". It's all in mind, happy people are generally habitual happy, location does not matter to their happiness.

okonomi · Post by **okonomi** » Thu Jul 05, 2012 9:26 am

suyog;463664I have started to believe that "If one is unhappy LIA (or R2I), he/she is most likely to be unhappy R2I (or LIA)". It's all in mind, happy people are generally habitual happy, location does not matter to their happiness.

So ...you don't buy that "void here, fillable there... therefore, unhappy here" notion ?

Desi2return · Post by **Desi2return** » Fri Jul 06, 2012 1:10 am

suyog;463664I have started to believe that "If one is unhappy LIA (or LII), he/she is most likely to be unhappy LII (or LIA)". It's all in mind, happy people are generally habitual happy, location does not matter to their happiness.

The tough question to answer is where will one be happier?

dbs · Post by **dbs** » Fri Jul 06, 2012 1:28 am

Desi2return;463762The tough question to answer is where will one be happier?

Be happy where you are happy. Don't be unhappy trying to find out where you will be happier.
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Jaggudada · Post by **Jaggudada** » Fri Jul 06, 2012 1:52 am

Tsozum;463623I think and I think not. Many folks feel US lifestyle is grinding and routine. However once people go to India (and even people in India) feel that life is India is routine and grinding (it is interesting however filled with vagaries -- power cuts, turn over of maids etc etc). The thing about USCs (self included) get lured by month long vacationing thinking that life in India is bed or roses but when start to live there the realization hits that the roses come with tons of thorns. So USCs like beaten down dogs, put the tail between legs, yelp and get back to the comfort of fully airconditioned home/apts and hondas/toyotasThose have nots remain in India with no choice or try to get back on H1B etc. Of course some lead a happy contended no matter where they live and that is the holy grail. Achieving inner peace is the quest irrespective of where one lives.

I think when you are in India you do variety of things. Attending engagements, marriages, funeral, celebrating festivals, you talk to people from your building (may not talk to all but considering the amount of people live, it doesn't take much to make few good friends), you also do some of these things here but not with the same fervor. You talk to your neighbor but do you connect? it's more superficial. Then on top of this, you have your immediate and extended relatives who you bump into every now and then. This lessens the effects of routine life.

okonomi · Post by **okonomi** » Fri Jul 06, 2012 2:23 am

Desi2return;463762The tough question to answer is where will one be happier?

One will be happier, where there is a "there".

Gertrude Stein had famously said (of her childhood hometown of Oakland, CA),"There is no there there".

We often say about some place that there is this, there is that, and there is the other thing, there is someone, may be someone special and on and on and on. That kind of there needs to be there for one to be happier.

On the other hand, there are those who have come to believe that location (the "there") don't matter at all. One may simply click the ruby slippers three times and say,"there is no place like home..." and one may wake up to find wherever to be home, the happiest place of all. Kansas !

okonomi · Post by **okonomi** » Fri Jul 06, 2012 2:43 am

Wanted to post a clever insight from another thread here.... verily worth a lot more than dos centavos.

desihometown;463776......Either way you do things, something or the other will turn out wrong. You'll never feel completley right about any decision you take in life. .....Just my 2 cents.

Desi2return · Post by **Desi2return** » Fri Jul 06, 2012 5:38 am

dbs;463772Be happy where you are happy. Don't be unhappy trying to find out where you will be happier.
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Life is unsure; always eat your dessert first.

Being unhappy while you are on a quest to be happier defeats the purpose of the quest...that wouldn't make sense. The way I read it is, be happy where you are happy and at the same time see where you can be even more happier!!! Greedy...I know :-)