There have been three suicide deaths in my acquaintances in India during the past 6 months. First, a young man in 20s committed suicide because he failed in a job interview. Second, a woman in 30s doing well financially committed suicide due to some marital issues. Third, a man in 50s again doing well financially committed suicide due to marital issues. Needless to say, all three deaths have caused tragic pain behind for their families. This could've been purely a coincidence, but I'm trying to understand if there is a growing systemic trend in India. Google searches revealed dated articles from 2014. Please share if you have any recent references or pointers for further reading on this topic.
Thanks.
Suicide rate in India
Suicide rate in India
I am aware of high suicide rates in India but I never had tried to research it. I know that a lot of them are due to students failing, being slapped by parents etc.
My neighbor in India, a 23 year old guy, parents got him married. His wife and his mother used to fight and he hung himself by a fan. Sad. When they started screaming when they found him, my brother rushed and removed him from the rope and fan. So family relations given the joint families in india also probably are one of the leading causes too. There really should be a chapter during schooling to teach students why even thinking of suicide is foolish.
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Did some googling and read thru following two links.
http://thelivelovelaughfoundation.org/7-reasons-why-indians-commit-suicide/
http://www.hindustantimes.com/health-and-fitness/every-hour-one-student-commits-suicide-in-india/story-7UFFhSs6h1HNgrNO60FZ2O.html
My neighbor in India, a 23 year old guy, parents got him married. His wife and his mother used to fight and he hung himself by a fan. Sad. When they started screaming when they found him, my brother rushed and removed him from the rope and fan. So family relations given the joint families in india also probably are one of the leading causes too. There really should be a chapter during schooling to teach students why even thinking of suicide is foolish.
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Did some googling and read thru following two links.
http://thelivelovelaughfoundation.org/7-reasons-why-indians-commit-suicide/
http://www.hindustantimes.com/health-and-fitness/every-hour-one-student-commits-suicide-in-india/story-7UFFhSs6h1HNgrNO60FZ2O.html
Suicide rate in India
It may be rooted in the society not recognizing mental health as just another health issue that need to be attended to and treated medically. As long as there is a stigma associated with mental health, such common diseases like depression might go untreated.
Don't know if the above is factual, as in whether it is still a stigma. Basing my opinion on my observations from India past.
Failure in job interview or marital issues or farmers unable to pay back loans are not the root cause. Not all failed interviews or marriage issues result in suicides. A person prone to depression might fall victim to societal perception/pressures easily and end up with dire reactions.
Don't know if the above is factual, as in whether it is still a stigma. Basing my opinion on my observations from India past.
Failure in job interview or marital issues or farmers unable to pay back loans are not the root cause. Not all failed interviews or marriage issues result in suicides. A person prone to depression might fall victim to societal perception/pressures easily and end up with dire reactions.
Suicide rate in India
This is actually a serious issue and I have had a family member take his life due to depression and this was several years ego. I recently heard of 2 cases of suicide, one is my mom's neighbor (recently married with a little kid) and other is my sister's student (a 10th grade girl) Unfortunately people who commit suicide do not realize that they are not just ending their lives but ruining so many more! And in most cases its not their fault and is some underlying mental health issue like boca mentione. While mental health issues in India goes un diagnosed and un treated leading to suicides, mental health issues in US lead to mass shootings and suicides. When people give so much importance to physical health and keeping their bodies strong I wish there was more focus on mental health and keeping your mind strong so every little failure won't push someone to the edge!
Suicide rate in India
I think the incredible academic pressure in India in 11th and 12 grades and in the early years of college do lead some depressed young people to commit suicide.
Absence of counselling, mental health professionals, a reluctance to prescribe anti-depressants also plays a role.
On the other hand, the one person I knew well who commited suicide was an American (in grad school).
Absence of counselling, mental health professionals, a reluctance to prescribe anti-depressants also plays a role.
On the other hand, the one person I knew well who commited suicide was an American (in grad school).
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Suicide rate in India
There have been 2 cases of India born H1B engineers jumping to their death in this San Diego based company. I heard it was because of work related stress, and immigration status.
https://www.nbcsandiego.com/news/local/Man-Plummets-to-Death-From-Qualcomm-Building---84724532.html
I have seen a friend hang himself during my teenage years. His parents did not know how to deal with a child struggling with studies. Both were PUC college teachers. My parents were very sad, but did not necessarily know how to help me deal with the loss of my friend. I had returned from seeing his deadbody, I was asked to shower and study hard to avoid being depressed with 75% marks. It was more of an opportunity to teach me a lesson about hard work, than to figure out a way to grieve. The brain is an organ just like any other, and depression is one of its diseases. We are not ashamed of going to a doctor if we break a bone, but in the case of the brain (stress, anxiety, depression) there is too much stigma in our culture/upbringing.
https://www.nbcsandiego.com/news/local/Man-Plummets-to-Death-From-Qualcomm-Building---84724532.html
I have seen a friend hang himself during my teenage years. His parents did not know how to deal with a child struggling with studies. Both were PUC college teachers. My parents were very sad, but did not necessarily know how to help me deal with the loss of my friend. I had returned from seeing his deadbody, I was asked to shower and study hard to avoid being depressed with 75% marks. It was more of an opportunity to teach me a lesson about hard work, than to figure out a way to grieve. The brain is an organ just like any other, and depression is one of its diseases. We are not ashamed of going to a doctor if we break a bone, but in the case of the brain (stress, anxiety, depression) there is too much stigma in our culture/upbringing.
Suicide rate in India
I had an American colleague commit suicide some 7 years back. The guy was in his 50s. His mental issues would show up in casual discussions. Over the period the whole team had learned to be sympathetic to him knowing what they knew. His incompetence was generally forgiven and rest all picked up the slack. The guy also had a kid who had mental issues. The new manager figured out the situation and he was sympathetic for a while too. But I guess the whole team had kind of reached the limit of tolerance as far his tantrums were concerned. But nobody was willing to complain because they did not want to see him more miserable than he was. The manager had to push the members to give the real honest reviews. And finally got rid of him. Three months down the line the guy committed suicide.
It was a heart breaking event. Despite his tantrums, we had learnt to accommodate him and live with a troubled personality as a good gesture out of sympathy. I had not anticipated him to go to this extreme although I had thought it would be possible. I felt almost like somebody from my family passing away that day. It was a sad situation and I can't really fault the manager. These situations are pretty difficult to handle. His previous managers had let him exist out of shear humanity.
It was a heart breaking event. Despite his tantrums, we had learnt to accommodate him and live with a troubled personality as a good gesture out of sympathy. I had not anticipated him to go to this extreme although I had thought it would be possible. I felt almost like somebody from my family passing away that day. It was a sad situation and I can't really fault the manager. These situations are pretty difficult to handle. His previous managers had let him exist out of shear humanity.
Suicide rate in India
Desi;668534I am aware of high suicide rates in India but I never had tried to research it. I know that a lot of them are due to students failing, being slapped by parents etc.I have been through this kind of fights between my wife and parents and it is heart wrenching. I am not very good in expressing or controlling my emotions. There have been times when I hated my parents and then gone to the other extreme of hating my wife and in both cases becoming violent and throwing things and breaking couple of cell phones in the process.
My neighbor in India, a 23 year old guy, parents got him married. His wife and his mother used to fight and he hung himself by a fan. Sad. When they started screaming when they found him, my brother rushed and removed him from the rope and fan. So family relations given the joint families in india also probably are one of the leading causes too. There really should be a chapter during schooling to teach students why even thinking of suicide is foolish.
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Did some googling and read thru following two links.
http://thelivelovelaughfoundation.org/7-reasons-why-indians-commit-suicide/
http://www.hindustantimes.com/health-and-fitness/every-hour-one-student-commits-suicide-in-india/story-7UFFhSs6h1HNgrNO60FZ2O.html
I have figured out that parents and wife are absolutely distrustful towards each other.
I just came back from vacation and we stayed amicably with my parents, or so I thought. On return my wife started blasting me for things I didn't even notice.
1) My dad has decided distribute some of his wealth gradually to his 3 kids.My dad told us this, but didn't tell us the details. I have told my parents before that we are not interested in any inheritance. He had created a schedule and stuck it on the cupboard door. I saw it but didn't care and didn't want to go into the details. My wife saw and noticed that there is more money going to my siblings than me and that got her pissed off.
2) My mom's leg was injured and wasn't able to wake up early and do the household work. My wife woke up on day 1 early and did it. Next day my dad woke up earlier than her and did the work. This again pissed off my wife as she thinks my dad did this to show that they don't want to depend on anyone.
3) I offered to my parents, that I would leave my wife and daughter back for couple of weeks so that she can help my mom until her leg is fine. My parents refused and said they can manage and that this can happen anytime during the year and anyways we are not there. I stopped at that. But my wife thinks that my parents will still be pissed of and angry with us that we didn't stay back and agreed to go back to Singapore immediately.
When we returned to Singapore from our vacation I thought we had a good time and entire family gelled well together. But immediately the next day my wife broke down and told me all of the above and this again gutted my heart.
My conclusion is to keep my wife and parents away from each other as far as possible.
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Suicide rate in India
Usual suspects wanting to give a direction and usual ones encouraging them. Shame!
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Yes, suicide rates are going up in India bcoz of some of the modern day issues that ppl are unable to handle. There is way too much pressure in Indian society today bcoz of trying to keep up with the moving prestige tag.
1) Most ppl are always on the lookout for the next bigger job which was not the case in 80s or 90s. This creates pressure.
2) The EMI culture has opened up many things that were unavailable to many earlier. Lack of sound financial knowledge to manage expenses or adhering to the age old adage of stretching only to the length of the blanket (literal trans from vernacular) will help.
3) Social media creating all sorts of pressures. Most ppl today want vacations abroad, overseas honeymoon, destination weddings, etc just to show off. Many go to just click pics so they can post and brag.
4) Many of my colleagues complain about school fees. They admit kids to brand name schools without th8nking of future fees which might balloon due to unscrupulous increases in fees.
5) Increase in extramarital affairs due to social media has disturbed the peace in many families.
6) Even the faithful married ones find reasons to fight amongst themselves creating marital problems bcoz someone else looks happier on SM.
7) Splitting of joint families to nuclear ones has weakened the family support and social fabric.
8) Lack of mature mental care
9) Social stigma attached with mental issues. Although this is fast improving but still prevails in large pockets of population.
None of the above, by themselves, may result in a suicide. But a combined effect of a few of them on a weak mind can destroy them to the extent of taking the ultimate step.
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Yes, suicide rates are going up in India bcoz of some of the modern day issues that ppl are unable to handle. There is way too much pressure in Indian society today bcoz of trying to keep up with the moving prestige tag.
1) Most ppl are always on the lookout for the next bigger job which was not the case in 80s or 90s. This creates pressure.
2) The EMI culture has opened up many things that were unavailable to many earlier. Lack of sound financial knowledge to manage expenses or adhering to the age old adage of stretching only to the length of the blanket (literal trans from vernacular) will help.
3) Social media creating all sorts of pressures. Most ppl today want vacations abroad, overseas honeymoon, destination weddings, etc just to show off. Many go to just click pics so they can post and brag.
4) Many of my colleagues complain about school fees. They admit kids to brand name schools without th8nking of future fees which might balloon due to unscrupulous increases in fees.
5) Increase in extramarital affairs due to social media has disturbed the peace in many families.
6) Even the faithful married ones find reasons to fight amongst themselves creating marital problems bcoz someone else looks happier on SM.
7) Splitting of joint families to nuclear ones has weakened the family support and social fabric.
8) Lack of mature mental care
9) Social stigma attached with mental issues. Although this is fast improving but still prevails in large pockets of population.
None of the above, by themselves, may result in a suicide. But a combined effect of a few of them on a weak mind can destroy them to the extent of taking the ultimate step.