R2I leading success life

mags123 · Post by **mags123** » Wed Aug 31, 2011 10:33 pm

Hello,
I would like to hear the success stories of R2I. Mostly we hear negative points such as "Pollution", "traffic", "Population", "kids education" and etc., in India. But I am sure there are numerous people who have lived in US and moved back to India for many reasons and leading successful life. Being happy with what they want..did we discuss such topic earlier? I didn't find one. Is it because, they are successful, may not come here to read/post in this forum. I may be wrong:)

Any such input/feedback for the following would be greatly appreciated.
1) Kids managing education. Especially > 8 or 10 year old kids as there will not be any issue with small kids
2) R2I settling down with good job/earning good money
3) Decent work hours (9 to max of 7). My company is in Bangalore about 900 people are working in that office. due to an attrition, they had come up with a policy that people won't have to work after 6pm. Need to get their manager approval in case if we ask them to work late hours. Now we are proactively assigning the work and having meeting once in a week. This is true statement. Not sure about other companies...
4) Spending time with Kids during weekend
5) Spending quality time with wife
6) Taking care of parents
7) visiting relative towns (enjoying Courtalam, ooty and etc.,) during summer
8) Authentic food
9) Managing crowd/weather
10) Kids managing/settling with their new friends..

To start with I have listed down just 10 points..Thinking more..

Thanks

RocknRoll · Post by **RocknRoll** » Thu Sep 01, 2011 7:06 pm

We are happy after R2I - kids having a whale of a time with all the relatives/grandparents and we are enjoying the day-to-day Indian life. No real complaints.

rajradio · Post by **rajradio** » Thu Sep 01, 2011 7:27 pm

we are half a return. The wife and kids are happy in India. well not really 10/10 but something like 7-8/10. I am still relocating i ll give you the other half perspective soon.

deleted the rest ...too preachy.

RK

Vivekananda · Post by **Vivekananda** » Thu Sep 01, 2011 8:43 pm

Please do not delete. Preachy is perfectly fine when it coming from a friendly, honest, and accomplished person such as you. Have fun.

rajradio;408033we are half a return. The wife and kids are happy in India. well not really 10/10 but something like 7-8/10. I am still relocating i ll give you the other half perspective soon.

deleted the rest ...too preachy.

RK

vizagdesi · Post by **vizagdesi** » Fri Sep 02, 2011 1:34 am

We R2Ied almost 5 years ago. Very happy in many ways here and don't have any inclination to R2A. However, my situation is very unique compared to many other R2Iers.

Relocated when kids are very young (5 and 2 yrs old)
Relocated to our hometown, have a large network of siblings/cousins/childhood friends for me and spouse,
Work from home for a US employer.
Many childhood friends who all have R2Ied already.
Vacation in the US every two years.
Mom lives with us and spouse's parents are 5 miles away. No big issues between MIL and DIL and no issues between me/mom with my in-laws.

You need to provide more details about your background so that you can find success stories that are very similar to your own profile.

mags123 · Post by **mags123** » Sat Sep 03, 2011 12:21 am

Here is my back ground:
I am nearing 40. Living in US since 2000. Wife & Two daughters. Studying 5th and 3rd grades respectively. Planning R2I in 2012.
All of us holding USC with OCI. Both my wife & I are working in Fortune 100 companies. Initial years my wife didn't work. Once we got GC in 2004, she started hunting the job. She is too smart than myself, got a job quickly and she has been indeed for our family success. She has great rapport with my parents. no questions here.. We are planning to go back to Chennai. Need to hunt a job for both of us for R2I.
->Bought a home in US around 2006 (peak season). Price got decreased around 30% (lost 90k).

Reason to R2I:-
I am not getting a solid reason to stay back here. I was away from my parents almost 15 years and so wanted to take care of them (but they never forced me. They always say that your wife & kids are your family). No relatives live in US. Only friends. I have a feeling of too monotonous for us and we always had to plan/engage some activities for our kids; Most of the time we are going to Bday parties, poojas, potluck, vacation and etc., Most of good places we have visited in US. I am enjoying it. But it will back to normal routines when the week starts. For long term purpose I prefer to go back to India where as my wife & younger daughter are against that. It is not that my wife is hating India, but she doesn't have solid reason to come back to India; to start the life from scratch; breaking our heads for new life style, kids educations, finding out new jobs and for other standard issues.

But I wanted our daughters to have an Indian culture (like us) around her grandparents, cousins and relatives and learning disciplines in schools rather we teach it in homes; also I believe this is the age they can accommodate themselves. If something happens in future and if R2I is required, then it will be difficult for them to adjust.
I don't want them react for all our questions such as roll their eyes at the adults and say "whatever", shaking their shoulder, always asking "why", "cannot do it" and etc.,

Next, having maids in India we can avoid lot of unnecessary daily activities like cooking, washing, cleaning, ironing and etc. on top of our high priority tasks (work, sitting with kids for school home works, taking them to all classes Kumon, dance, piano and etc.,)

Finally my major concern is US economy which is very difficult to predict. Corporate is corporate. We never know.

At the same time, I am afraid of forcing them to R2I. I don't want to see them struggling for everything because of me. That's the primary reason, I would like to hear success stories.

Hope I will get more feedback this time.

vsri · Post by **vsri** » Sat Sep 03, 2011 2:26 am

You are very lucky to have a such a nice spouse!

cmk786 · Post by **cmk786** » Sat Sep 03, 2011 3:23 am

mags123;408250
Finally my major concern is US economy which is very difficult to predict. Corporate is corporate. We never know.

At the same time, I am afraid of forcing them to R2I. I don't want to see them struggling for everything because of me. That's the primary reason, I would like to hear success stories.

Hope I will get more feedback this time.

The world has become soooooooo small. If any one of the developed country is doing bad, it will have some repurcussion on other countries. Therefore if some one base their R2I plans just because present US economy is doing bad, than over a period of time they will regrett their own decision to R2I.
If some one is forced to R2I aginest their will, than also R2I is bound to fail. You want to hear other people success R2I stories and if you base your R2I plan on other persons success stories. Than it is not necessary your R2I will also be successful. Becuase for a successfull R2I, the foremost important factor is - thier own reasons for R2Iing. Also just because you are R2Iing from USA which at one point of time theeeeee top most countries in the world. Does not mean you R2I with some kind of attitude and with high expectations that you will be welcomed with both hands on a red carpet.This will never happen. The most important factor for successful R2I is "SHOULD NEVER COMPARE INDIA TO US IN ANY ASPECT". Every country will have pros and cons. We must only appreciate the pros and should never criticise the cons and should learn to live with it. I wish you happy and successful R2I. Good Luck !!!

jay_jay · Post by **jay_jay** » Sat Sep 03, 2011 5:43 pm

Forget US economy, the economy in India much more fragile. Economy can not be the reason for your move, do not worry about it.

On the personal reasons, my background is more or less same. But my biggest worry is about the schooling of the kids, their school here is way too better than any school I could find in chennai, so kid is very hesitant. On missing parents are relatives, send the kids to India for 2 months in summer vacation (so they get to spend a month here too not missing any summer). You also visit every year, it is going to cost you but note that it will not go for ever. You will stop as time pass and settle with what you have.

If we manage to find some good people around us here in North America, chances are there you would not miss much.

mags123;408250Here is my back ground:
I am nearing 40. Living in US since 2000. Wife & Two daughters. Studying 5th and 3rd grades respectively. Planning R2I in 2012.
All of us holding USC with OCI. Both my wife & I are working in Fortune 100 companies. Initial years my wife didn't work. Once we got GC in 2004, she started hunting the job. She is too smart than myself, got a job quickly and she has been indeed for our family success. She has great rapport with my parents. no questions here.. We are planning to go back to Chennai. Need to hunt a job for both of us for R2I.
->Bought a home in US around 2006 (peak season). Price got decreased around 30% (lost 90k).

Reason to R2I:-
I am not getting a solid reason to stay back here. I was away from my parents almost 15 years and so wanted to take care of them (but they never forced me. They always say that your wife & kids are your family). No relatives live in US. Only friends. I have a feeling of too monotonous for us and we always had to plan/engage some activities for our kids; Most of the time we are going to Bday parties, poojas, potluck, vacation and etc., Most of good places we have visited in US. I am enjoying it. But it will back to normal routines when the week starts. For long term purpose I prefer to go back to India where as my wife & younger daughter are against that. It is not that my wife is hating India, but she doesn't have solid reason to come back to India; to start the life from scratch; breaking our heads for new life style, kids educations, finding out new jobs and for other standard issues.

But I wanted our daughters to have an Indian culture (like us) around her grandparents, cousins and relatives and learning disciplines in schools rather we teach it in homes; also I believe this is the age they can accommodate themselves. If something happens in future and if R2I is required, then it will be difficult for them to adjust.
I don't want them react for all our questions such as roll their eyes at the adults and say "whatever", shaking their shoulder, always asking "why", "cannot do it" and etc.,

Next, having maids in India we can avoid lot of unnecessary daily activities like cooking, washing, cleaning, ironing and etc. on top of our high priority tasks (work, sitting with kids for school home works, taking them to all classes Kumon, dance, piano and etc.,)

Finally my major concern is US economy which is very difficult to predict. Corporate is corporate. We never know.

At the same time, I am afraid of forcing them to R2I. I don't want to see them struggling for everything because of me. That's the primary reason, I would like to hear success stories.

Hope I will get more feedback this time.

srinpo · Post by **srinpo** » Mon Sep 05, 2011 10:03 am

mags123;408250
At the same time, I am afraid of forcing them to R2I. I don't want to see them struggling for everything because of me. That's the primary reason, I would like to hear success stories.

For your numbers, you can add me to the list of those who R2Ied & stayed that way. I am a close to 12 yrs, just browsing this for time pass. But I wont certainly put it as having great time etc. It is hard & will be hard at every stage. But probablity of my continued stay is high. As I have put it in other reply, for your case, probability of happy consensus for R2I with your family and R2I is very low. If at all you want to R2I, you have to take that risk of dominating others. I am neither advicing for/against it. I understand the difficulty. But why did you wait so long ? So typical for many people. Isnt it easier to take the plunge before Kids are say 5/6.
But I want put another opinion based on what I see around my circle, contradictory to what Vizagdesi is saying in #5. i.e. most people dont return as expected, and many people who returned, eventually R2A some time or other. Many know that already so it isnt like failure, they want to stay in India only for few years have fun and return back. In fact this set of people are likely to say good things about India even more than long time succesful R2I'es, as they dont have long term issues.
Even now I see around, college time seem to be a big check point. For undergraduate many want to go to US, and instead of sending their kids alone which they think is too early to live on their own, move with them. Simple reason, it is hard to get good colleges (most think there is none, if at all IIT's) in India, but a piece of cake in US (actually I know only 1 not good college in US - TriValley).
So just be aware of this opinion. I am sure vizagdesi is a pro & has good view point, and take his view seriously.